Saturday 13 June, 2009

Expectations... Observations and Disappointment

Sounds like yet another preachy and depressing post from bloke, yeah will it is to some extent but this one too has some figment of reality, personal experience and a word of advice as always...

Change in life is an omnipresent. We move one from one stage of life to another, from school to college, then job and may be even a family later. Every time we leave a stage and enter another, we expect certain things. There is an air of positive anticipation, a ray of hope screaming out loud that things will get better now. Probably the things which were flawed in the previous era will be rectified now and there will be a new beginning to things. Well no one really said this to you , or did they ? It's all in the mind, our tiny little gray cells playing games with us, showing us things that comfort us, make us wanna move ahead and not cling on to the past if it all it was flawless enough to hold on too. I fully justify what the gray cells are doing here, the preconceived notions put in our brains to make us wanna go ahead in life, obviously it is the right things to be done, but as always, there is a catch to it...

What our tiny little gray chaps fail to conceive is that when they fill our heads with positive expectation about the future.. they also create a ticking time bomb, every ready to explode , God(just an expression, I am an Atheist) forbid the expectation are not met. Please do not judge me here. I am not a pessimistic asking you to expect the worse of the outcomes. As it is said " Hope for the best and be ready for the worst." All I am saying is that be prepared for the worst of the outcome so that if you ever have to face one, you don't end up being ruined.

For example, many of us are gonna soon join the professional world with huge pay packages, some of us are doing start-ups, and some going for higher studies in India as well as abroad. We all have some expectations, some probably think that a glamorous world awaits them. I hope it does for them. I am strongly believe that there is nothing a place or an institution has to offer to an individual. But it's the individuals caliber which takes em to the top. So have unreal expectations from some place is just unjustified and unfair. What applies to material and professional domain also applies to other aspects of life.

Some people might call this line of thought as mediocre. Thought process of someone not bold enough to think big, well I believe otherwise.

That concludes another lesson I learnt in life.

10 comments:

gowri said...

Yeah , life is lived in phases and we hope for the best as we move on. Hope is the only thing that drives us forward , keeps us going.
Whether the dreams come true or not , something new , a change is always welcome , old routines need to be broken and new ones awaited eagerly.

eNVy said...

mind boggling is our mind indeed, since we dont know anything about future we do tend to cook up expectations to fill in the void.

expectations usually have no limit, but i find it very useful to lower my expectations of anything and everything now and then, this way my odds of disappointment are reduced.

hash said...

yoyo..kem cho?

Sidharth Ullal said...

very true what you have said

2 sayings come to mind...

"Grass is always greener on the other side"
&
"If there is no hope for the future, there is no life"

Hmmmm...

Raghav said...

I LIKE.

abhishek said...

wth .. m reading this blog instead of masalatalk blog.. sad vella me

mandar said...

"Change in life is an omnipresent."

cliched saala, if you say that again im gonna kill you :D

otherwise nice post. guess the whole point is that what we call 'realistic expectations' today might turn out to be extremely unrealistic the next..what say?

Avinash said...

sid wht u want ppl to do? yaar jo likha satvachan hai bhai bilkul par agar koi chotu thode armaan le kar nayi zindagi me kadam rakhta hai to rakhne de, jo hona hai aage uspe kisi kaa bas nahin. nicely written nevertheless :)

Prachi Bansal said...

totally agree with u... rosy visions of the future led me nowhere...cribbin 24X7 these days..

S D agrawal said...

Its true that human mind (gray cells )has unlimited powers but it only obeys our command .optimistism and confidence is very good but we have to check the negative side of every thing and to check overconfidence. we have to apply apply all together accelerator, break and cluch together for safe driving of life's vehicle